★ NAVIGATING DATING & RELATIONSHIPS ★
a somewhat chaotic list of things I learned over the past 10 years
- Before you start dating, decide what your bisexuality means to you & how you would explain it to a potential love interest (i.e., biromantic asexual, own gender + all others, demisexual, non-binaries + women, regardless of gender, questioning)
- Be upfront about your bisexuality when dating — this allows you to weed out biphobes immediately and/or dismiss some biphobic myths right off the bat
- LGBTQIA+ youth parties/clubs can be a GIFT because it’s usually a lot of cute people together nervously trying to flirt and dance (this meant a lot to me as a teenager)
- If you’re not into clubbing, regular LGBTQIA+ events or bi meetups could be the way to meet potential dates (these are often organised through social media)
- Always keep in mind though that people at events might not be looking for a date or a relationship. Never harass people or press your advances where they are not wanted
- Talk to other bisexuals (online)! They can help you get into bi-friendly meetups, dating spots & generally give you splendid advice, also on which people and what locations to avoid
- In relation to the point above, seek out other people like you. Join an asexual group online, find other non-binaries on Tumblr, talk to fellow transpeople, etc. In other words, surround yourself with a safe network of people who can help & support you
- And hey, who knows, you might find your new date waiting for you in such a group!
- Always make sure that you’re SAFE when dating. A supportive person/friend should know where you are, what you’re doing & know when things are not okay (for events/parties/clubs: take someone along that you know)
- Be open to criticism about your own behaviour, too! Especially if you’re moving around in minority communities a lot or date someone whose background differs from yours, always be respectful & mindful of their feelings/opinions
- Don’t EVER settle for someone who is biphobic & not willing to get rid of it, no matter how lovely they might seem
- However, do allow partners to get used to the idea of you being bisexual — if they’re willing to learn from you, want to support you, and want to get rid of their possibly biphobic bullshit then I’d say let’s give them the chance
- For long-term relationships, explore together what your sexuality means for the relationship & if you’re both okay with that (needs, limits & wants are always good to talk about, regardless of bisexuality)
- Also for long-term relationships: support!! It’s important to know that your partners support you and your sexual identity no matter what & that it will not make them uncomfortable (i.e., going with you to pride events, defending you against biphobes especially if they’re friends or family)
- Don’t let failed relationships or dates get you down! It’s an image that the media loves to play up with LGBTQIA+ people but that doesn’t make it 100% true the entire time, so just go for it okay??
- And if all the dating and the relationships don’t work out, you’re still a lovely bisexual unicorn/pirate monarch who is thousand shades of awesome! ♥
All that said, these things are all drawn from my personal experience — an experience in a relatively safe environment where I’ve never had much biphobic trouble with my long-term ex-partners & current partner (dating, however, is another story). So not everything on this list might apply accurately to others.
Just keep in mind that your own safety & identity are the most important things in the world, and that LGBTQIA+ events aren’t always synonymous with bi-friendly spaces where you won’t find biphobia.
Any other advice that I could probably give about relationships is that communication is TRULY key. Always keep talking to each other.
30 Sep 14 @ 9:53 pm  — reblog
Haven’t you figured it out yet, Doctor? The Queen’s in danger and the empire is doomed.
-The Great Mouse Detective (1986) ♛
reasons why halloween is the best holiday:
- you are not obliged to visit your relatives
- you are not obliged to get gifts for anyone
- people will give you candy for absolutely no reason other than halloween
- its the only day when its socially acceptable to go out in public dressed like a penguin
WICKED LADY!!! I love this villain. *_*
You better love me for this.
"The Witch of the Waste is searching for my house. The truth is, I’m a coward. All this junk is just sorcery to keep her away."
feminism never made me hate men but the reaction to feminism sure as shit did
some men* you literally cannot hate people you’ve never met or even heard of.
oh MY GOD OH MY GOD OHH M Y GOD OH MY GOD OH MY GOD OHHHYM GOD OH MY GOD OH MY OD OOOOOH MY GOD oh MY GOD OH MY GOD OH MY GOD O H MY GO D OH MY GOD O H M Y GO D OH MY GOD OH MY GOD
Transparent Kuranosuke & Tsukimi
free to use (you can resize/crop them however you like)
no credit necessary but please don’t claim as your own ♥